Words of Affirmations

Jan 3, 2023 · Pesa Shayo · 1 min read

We catch more with honey than with vinegar. If your spouse’s love language is words of affirmation, it will be great to give them verbal compliments.

Verbally affirming your spouse is a great tool to have. Verbal Affirmations are powerful communicators of Love.
Verbal Affirmations can act as a great force to encourage and motivate your spouse.
When we use words of encouragement, this requires empathy, seeing the world from the spouses perspective. This can lead to more bonding between you and your spouse. We enjoy being around people who have an understanding of what we are going through.

One thing to remember is that when you’re giving words of Affirmations, always march the body language.
Saying. ..I loooove you (with a longing look ) is different from I love you (with a disgusted look ).

So it is very important to use your body language and voice tone to make the verbal compliments more effective.

Although some of these might sound common sense. …and most of us practiced verbal compliments before we got married. With time and stresses of life, unaccomplished dreams…..we may fall into the trap of nagging thinking that that is what will motivate our spouse.

As Gary Chapman the author of ‘The 5 love Languages’ said, verbal compliments are far greater motivators than nagging words.
When we use encouraging words with our spouse we ‘inspire courage’. Especially in areas that they feel insecure. These words have a way of giving strength to our spouse and thus they can accomplish more.

Pesa Shayo is a husband, father and author.

As the co-founder of Live Your Best Marriage, Pesa brings a blend of practical and easy-to-follow steps rooted in Biblical principles to his guidance.

He's been happily married for over 22 years and devotes a great deal of time to his children.

Pesa enjoys going for hikes with his family.

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