The Headwind Principle: Why Good Marriages Need Extra Thrust

The Headwind Principle: Why Good Marriages Need Extra Thrust

If driving has wind resistance, marriage has life resistance—fatigue, schedules, misunderstandings, and the thousand tiny frictions that slow closeness. The…
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Stop Blaming the Weather: Owning Your Route Through Resistance

Stop Blaming the Weather: Owning Your Route Through Resistance

If you’ve ever yelled at traffic for making you late, you already understand how we treat marriage when life doesn’t…
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When “Normal” Isn’t Neutral: Everyday Friction That Drains Intimacy

When “Normal” Isn’t Neutral: Everyday Friction That Drains Intimacy

“Normal life” is not a steady baseline—it’s a mild headwind. Tiredness, chores, cultural differences, and mental bandwidth quietly tax connection.…
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Life Happens—Love Plans: Building Slack Into Your Connection

Life Happens—Love Plans: Building Slack Into Your Connection

Amazon delays, sniffly kids, late meetings—none are “attacks,” they’re the weather. Strong couples don’t waste energy arguing with the weather;…
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Aim for Stars, Land on Trust: Overshooting Goals to Reach Great

Aim for Stars, Land on Trust: Overshooting Goals to Reach Great

If you aim only for “fine,” resistance will make it “meh.” The days get long, someone gets sick, a package…
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Raise the Floor, Not Just the Ceiling: Minimums that Protect Marriage

Raise the Floor, Not Just the Ceiling: Minimums that Protect Marriage

Big dreams are exciting; strong minimums are protective. Raise the Floor, Not Just the Ceiling is a simple shift: define…
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The Power of Redundancy: Why Three Touchpoints Beat One Grand Gesture

The Power of Redundancy: Why Three Touchpoints Beat One Grand Gesture

One monthly “special night” gets obliterated by one bad week. Three weekly micro-touchpoints—date, check-in, and a mini-ritual—create resilience through redundancy.…
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From Intention to Intensity: Matching Energy to the Marriage You Want

From Intention to Intensity: Matching Energy to the Marriage You Want

Good intentions are beautiful—but they underperform against real resistance. Busy calendars, tired bodies, missed texts, and small misunderstandings act like…
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