5 Signs That An Emotional Affair Is Starting

There are certain feelings, words and situations that should stay exclusively between a husband

and wife. Unfortunately, it’s fairly easy for the invisible boundary line to be crossed. When this

occurs, it’s referred to as an emotional affair. Here are the 5 signs that an emotional affair is

starting.

1. Everyone gets the joke, except for your spouse.

If there is a certain friend or colleague of the opposite sex, whom other teammates are

noticing that you have chemistry with, there’s a problem. Playing “footsie” and flirting on

the job while your spouse isn’t there, is the beginning of a dangerous game.

Saying things to this person that you would never say if you’re spouse was there hearing it,

is an obvious stepping stone from a close call friendship to an emotional affair.

As fellow associates are laughing and egging this on, the person you made a lifetime

promise to, is the last to know.

2. You delete or hide text messages and emails.

Messages you send and receive should be available/open for your spouse to

read at any time. If the topic of conversation is a little too personal, or

you think it could offend your spouse, so you keep it a secret- a line is definitely

being crossed.

3. You do activities exclusively with this one person.

Going out to lunch as a group, or meeting one on one to discuss business

matters is perfectly okay for married people. However, if two of you are repeatedly

taking your break at the same time together, or conversing in a corner alone – this

person has become too special.

4. They tell you personal info that they haven’t even told their spouse.

Intimacy is a very special bond that a husband and wife share. A deep

closeness occurs when we open up our heart and tell specific information

to only one person, but not to anyone else. Having such conversations with

someone highly regarded as special, whom you are NOT married to, creates

distance between you and your spouse. Side Note: sex is NOT and does NOT

create emotional intimacy.

5. Comparisons and put-downs.

Anytime you find yourself comparing/contrasting your spouse to someone else

you know and admire- be it physically or otherwise- it’s a sign that things at home

aren’t going well. Having respect for others is a very important virtue, but if

you wish your spouse could be more like a certain someone, that’s another story.

Saying or thinking something along the lines of “I wish my husband was more like so and so…”

or, “I wish my wife was as intelligent as so and so…” are clues.

Additionally, being harsh and critical of your spouse’s short coming, will put your

relationship on a downhill trajectory – fast.

If you have noticed even one of these scenarios creeping up in your life, the risk

of an emotional affair starting is there. Be sure to safe guard your

marriage. Your spouse is far more important than anyone else, so don’t let

someone who is less informed come between the two of you.