If you aim only for “fine,” resistance will make it “meh.” The days get long, someone gets sick, a package runs late, the sitter cancels, and suddenly your “good enough” […]
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Raise the Floor, Not Just the Ceiling: Minimums that Protect Marriage
Big dreams are exciting; strong minimums are protective. Raise the Floor, Not Just the Ceiling is a simple shift: define non-negotiable practices that still happen on bad weeks—one date night, […]
The Power of Redundancy: Why Three Touchpoints Beat One Grand Gesture
One monthly “special night” gets obliterated by one bad week. Three weekly micro-touchpoints—date, check-in, and a mini-ritual—create resilience through redundancy. The Power of Redundancy is a simple design choice: build […]
From Intention to Intensity: Matching Energy to the Marriage You Want
Good intentions are beautiful—but they underperform against real resistance. Busy calendars, tired bodies, missed texts, and small misunderstandings act like a headwind on your best days. From Intention to Intensity […]
You’re Not Just Growing for You—You’re Growing for Your Family Legacy
Your Growth Sends a Message to Everyone Watching Every choice you make in your marriage tells a story—and it’s not just your spouse who hears it. Your kids, your extended […]
Marriage Isn’t a Tug-of-War—It’s a Team Sport
Introduction: You’re on the Same Side Marriage is not a competition. It’s not about keeping score or proving who’s right. At its core, marriage is about partnership—two people who have […]






