If driving has wind resistance, marriage has life resistance—fatigue, schedules, misunderstandings, and the thousand tiny frictions that slow closeness. The Headwind Principle says you won’t reach “good” by aiming at […]
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When “Normal” Isn’t Neutral: Everyday Friction That Drains Intimacy
“Normal life” is not a steady baseline—it’s a mild headwind. Tiredness, chores, cultural differences, and mental bandwidth quietly tax connection. The couples who thrive aren’t magically spared from this wind; […]
Life Happens—Love Plans: Building Slack Into Your Connection
Amazon delays, sniffly kids, late meetings—none are “attacks,” they’re the weather. Strong couples don’t waste energy arguing with the weather; they plan for it. Life Happens—Love Plans means you add […]
Raise the Floor, Not Just the Ceiling: Minimums that Protect Marriage
Big dreams are exciting; strong minimums are protective. Raise the Floor, Not Just the Ceiling is a simple shift: define non-negotiable practices that still happen on bad weeks—one date night, […]