If driving has wind resistance, marriage has life resistance—fatigue, schedules, misunderstandings, and the thousand tiny frictions that slow closeness. The Headwind Principle says you won’t reach “good” by aiming at […]
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Stop Blaming the Weather: Owning Your Route Through Resistance
If you’ve ever yelled at traffic for making you late, you already understand how we treat marriage when life doesn’t cooperate. Weather happens; routes are chosen. Instead of arguing with […]
When “Normal” Isn’t Neutral: Everyday Friction That Drains Intimacy
“Normal life” is not a steady baseline—it’s a mild headwind. Tiredness, chores, cultural differences, and mental bandwidth quietly tax connection. The couples who thrive aren’t magically spared from this wind; […]
Aim for Stars, Land on Trust: Overshooting Goals to Reach Great
If you aim only for “fine,” resistance will make it “meh.” The days get long, someone gets sick, a package runs late, the sitter cancels, and suddenly your “good enough” […]
Raise the Floor, Not Just the Ceiling: Minimums that Protect Marriage
Big dreams are exciting; strong minimums are protective. Raise the Floor, Not Just the Ceiling is a simple shift: define non-negotiable practices that still happen on bad weeks—one date night, […]
The Power of Redundancy: Why Three Touchpoints Beat One Grand Gesture
One monthly “special night” gets obliterated by one bad week. Three weekly micro-touchpoints—date, check-in, and a mini-ritual—create resilience through redundancy. The Power of Redundancy is a simple design choice: build […]