If driving has wind resistance, marriage has life resistance—fatigue, schedules, misunderstandings, and the thousand tiny frictions that slow closeness. The Headwind Principle says you won’t reach “good” by aiming at […]
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When “Normal” Isn’t Neutral: Everyday Friction That Drains Intimacy
“Normal life” is not a steady baseline—it’s a mild headwind. Tiredness, chores, cultural differences, and mental bandwidth quietly tax connection. The couples who thrive aren’t magically spared from this wind; […]
Aim for Stars, Land on Trust: Overshooting Goals to Reach Great
If you aim only for “fine,” resistance will make it “meh.” The days get long, someone gets sick, a package runs late, the sitter cancels, and suddenly your “good enough” […]
The Power of Redundancy: Why Three Touchpoints Beat One Grand Gesture
One monthly “special night” gets obliterated by one bad week. Three weekly micro-touchpoints—date, check-in, and a mini-ritual—create resilience through redundancy. The Power of Redundancy is a simple design choice: build […]
From Intention to Intensity: Matching Energy to the Marriage You Want
Good intentions are beautiful—but they underperform against real resistance. Busy calendars, tired bodies, missed texts, and small misunderstandings act like a headwind on your best days. From Intention to Intensity […]