If you allow it to, doubt can ruin your marriage. It creeps in quickly and can easily become a habit. In this post I will explain why allowing our thoughts about our spouse to go back and forth from positive to negative -on a regular basis- is harmful to the relationship.
Uncertainty is no friend to a committed couple, so say goodbye to doubt and save your marriage.
If your overall way of thinking generally consists mainly of doubting yourself, rather than having confidence,
you may often spend time trying to convince yourself that you are worthy, before you even begin the task or challenge at hand.
You must build a case for yourself that proves why you have what it takes, and build it quickly.
We all struggle with this from time to time. Whether it be the occasional “I don’t know if I can handle this”, or “am I making the right decision?”, it’s definitely something which can affect anyone. Although this is something that both men and women suffer from, women are more susceptible to feeling insecure. In the aspect of marriage, especially,
a woman is more prone to wondering “what did he really mean when he said that?” or, “does he really love me?”
Of course, as you probably could have guessed, I want to remind the husbands out there to provide your wife with reassurance as much as possible.
However, what you may not expect me to say is I also want to let the wives know there is also something that they can do too. Ladies, raise your confidence. Please. This will save you a lot of heartache. This is something I struggle with, myself. When I assume the worst, I feel the worst. Misinterpretations don’t have to be the end of the world. Proceed with caution, and build a case as to why your spouse is not out to cause harm. Begin by simply reminding yourself that you and your husband are on the same team. Keep in mind that his intentions are good and he means well.
One negative comment from him does not erase all of the good things he has said. This concept works just as well both ways, of course, for both partners.
Misunderstandings will always be there, but if the glass is half empty, everything always looks bad, no matter what.
